Dating Healthily After a Traumatic, Chaotic, Not-So-Good Childhood
If you had a not-so-good childhood, you know the impacts it can have on your romantic life.
Ready for something new?
Does this sound like you?
You struggle to trust people. You pull away when they get close, set up a bunch of walls to keep them out; to keep yourself safe. You're a little skeptical, keeping people at arms length, never really letting them into your world.
You find yourself going on a million first dates, always finding that something is just a little off.. you can't quite put your finger on it but you haven't found the right person yet.
And when you do, it never works out.. Something happens and next thing you know, it's over..
And when you do start seeing someone more seriously, SO MUCH ANXIETY. Will they leave me? Hurt me? Should I be with them? Are they right for me?! Do they like me? Have a I made them mad? Your head is just reeling all the time, so much so that you wonder if it might just be easier to give up.
If this is you, then I can tell you with certainty that your childhood impacted the way you date.
And it's time we change that.
This course will teach you how to heal your traumatic childhood wounds so taht you can date healthily.
Hi! I'm Cecile.
I'm a counsellor who specializes in supporting folks who have had rough, traumatic or just overall not great childhoods. I run a team of amazing trauma counsellors, train and supervise other counsellors and share trauma healing information with over 200K followers on TikTok and Instagram. I've been seen/heard on CBC, The Owl and US Weekly and take great pride in being able to sit with people as we process some of the sh*ttiest moments life.
I've helped hundreds of people learn how to have a healthy dating life after their rough childhoods, and now I want to share it with you. Because everyone deserves good love.
That's why I created Dating Healthily After a Traumatic, Chaotic, Not-So-Good Childhood.
It's a 4 part, online, self-study course covering all the best techniques and strategies I've learnt over the years to help you untangle the mess of the past so that you can find the love you are looking for now.
When you finish this course, you'll be able to name the exact ways your childhood is showing up in your relationships now, what's stopping you from getting the relationship you want, what you need to do to get there and how to do it!
AN OVERVIEW OF THE COURSE
Dating Healthily is a 4 Part self-paced course, where each part builds on the learning from the previous section. Take as much or as little time as you need to fully explore a section before moving on to the next. You'll have immediate access to the full course, so as soon as you're ready to start, you can dive right in.
Each part of the course has 4 exercises to help you dive into each topic and really leave with a complete understanding of you (except Part 4, which actually has 6 exercises cause I just couldn't narrow it down).
Each exercise has a video of me explaining exactly what to do, so you're fully supported and guided through this whole thing.
While the course does build on itself (as in, you'll need to do one exercise to do the next), you can jump around as much as you like, meaning that if you want to go back to something to dig a little deeper, you totally can.
THE COURSE STRUCTURE
We're going to go back to where it started: your childhood. You already know that it's playing a role in your dating life, but let's get some more clarity here! We're going to explore the key relationships in your childhood, what messages you learnt about love growing up and ways that you protected yourself.
Let's explore what stuck. Basically, your childhood impacted lots of stuff, but what stuff is still with you today, when you're out dating? We're going to find the themes and patterns in your dating life so that we can untangle them. We're also going to explore which trauma responses are showing up in how you date.
What do you want your romantic relationship(s) to look like? While this might seem like an easy questions to some people, if you've never had a good model of a healthy relationship, this might be hard to figure out! Beliefs we identified in the previous parts may also be stopping you from dreaming big, so let me help you really think this one through.
I call part 4 "The Work". Look, I'm not going to beat around the bush: if you want to be in a relationship and already knew everything you needed to know to be in a healthy one, you would be. You wouldn't be here now. So there's likely some things you're missing. Let's go over setting boundaries, building safety, releasing control, building worthiness, effective and healthy communication and letting go of the fairy tale.
This course is made up of four super easy steps:
Watch the video.
Do the exercise.
Feel the anger, sadness, grief, disappointment of all you've been through. And then, feel the excitement, hope and inspiration of what is coming.
Repeat til you've done all the exercises.
And that's it. 4 steps to help change your dating life.
This course was literally built for you if...
You can't seem to find the right person! Sometimes you think you do but then they leave or something goes wrong and it's over...
You keep repeating a pattern and choosing the "same" person, even though you know they aren't good for you.
You have walls that are sky high and even though you want to let people in, it seems like the walls will never come down. Trust someone? Ha! It feels like a fairy tale to think of doing that!
You want and are so ready for a healthy relationship. You just don't know how to get there.
How this course will help you...
Get to the core of what's causing you issues in your dating life.
Give you awareness and clarity so that you can make conscious choices about what you want for yourself.
Learn concrete strategies and tools to build healthy relationships.
Take accountability for your role in your dating life.
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With 18 exercises and accompanying videos, transform your understanding of why you date the way you do, and how to change that so you can get the love you so deeply deserve.